We only have to learn from the past, not live in the past:

We only have to learn from the past, not live in the past:

    The past is ours and the present is ours, but the point is that we cannot dwell on the past.

We should learn from the mistakes of the past and improve the present, but it is inappropriate to dwell on the memories of the sorrows or pains of the past.

    Because it only causes pain and does not create opportunities for the future.

Learning from the past helps us correct our mistakes and make decisions.

    The past cannot be held on to, if we hold on to the sorrows or pains of the past, the beautiful moments of the present will be ruined or the beautiful will lose its original place.

Whatever plans and decisions for the future will lose their original form.

    We must hold the past aside and focus on the present through action and move our lives towards improvement.

If we live in the past, we will only experience sadness and create instability for the future.

    We must learn from our mistakes and change our path in the future without stepping on that path again.

We must use the experiences of the past to create a beautiful future.

    We must respect the past and encourage the present and future to move forward on a beautiful path.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/06/dont-curse-betrayer-thank-him-because.html

Read More

Don't curse the betrayer; thank him - because he taught you how to recognize people:-

 

Don't curse the betrayer; thank him - because he taught you how to recognize people: 

Betrayers also live in our society and because of them, people are known or will later give you a powerful knowledge of how to know people.

    A betrayer helps you and me recognize the true face of people, which saves us from making big mistakes in the future.

Betrayers teach us to recognize all betrayers through their behavior or an action, which helps us understand the good and bad aspects of society - which is a very useful experience.

    It helps us to be careful in the future and choose the right people to be with. It shows a kind of mental strength and generosity to thank the betrayer instead of abusing him, which makes me and you stronger than before.

The important thing is to keep yourself calm at this time, without reacting to anger.

    Although a betrayal is a painful experience, it teaches you many things about yourself - which is a very good lesson.

Therefore, instead of taking the betrayal personally, you should use it as an opportunity for your own improvement.

Read More

Take every step of life carefully - because many people are waiting, just to sound your mistake:

 

Take every step of life carefully - because many people are waiting, just to sound your mistake:

We work hard in our lives to build ourselves up bit by bit and work hard for the needs of life. Because the characteristic of society is that many people sit around finding fault with others even after investing in the need.

Even if it takes time, every work or step must be taken carefully and all decisions must be taken very carefully.

A small decision may be made without much thought - a lot of damage has been done - and as a result, even big, appropriate decisions will disappear.

Therefore, no achievement can be achieved in a short time or quickly without conscious effort - it would have been possible even if it had not been so difficult and conscious if someone else had not been there to sound these mistakes.

Don't just find fault, it will ruin other good works as well.

Even though you or I never criticize anyone, there are many people who are determined to find fault with you and me.

Therefore, to protect yourself from criticism and negative reactions from people, and to maintain your respectable position, it is important to be vigilant and make good decisions and tread carefully.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/05/breaking-up-doesnt-mean-life-is-over.html

Read More

Breaking up doesn't mean life is over - even through some breaking ups, a new life begins:

Breaking up doesn't mean life is over - even through some breaking ups, a new life begins:

    Every ending then signals a new beginning.

And learning from failure and moving forward is a stage in life.

    Win-lose is always in life - broken-built is also involved in life.

The end is the beginning.

    What ends or breaks in our lives is actually a glimpse or appearance of a beginning in another form.

In fact, nothing ever ends completely - it only begins in a new forum.

    Breakdown or failure is not the end of life, it is the beginning of creation. Rather, this breakdown or end teaches us to live in a new way.

It opens new paths and makes us stronger than before through knowledge and experience.

    The constant truth from the beginning of the world is that the broken is the building. What ends in the past is for a new beginning.

That which is second to none, so that it may not be broken by any mistake or activities, is created again by giving knowledge, which is very permanent.

    Building a positive attitude to sustain oneself in the face of decline and adapt to all changes brings one to the brink of completion—and provides inspiration.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/05/if-worries-about-livelihood-overwhelm.html

Read More

If worries about livelihood overwhelm the mind:

If worries about livelihood overwhelm the mind:

    But look at the birds of the sky - they do not know where they will get their food - They only know that they have to run, trusting in Almighty - You too run, trusting in Almighty - it is fully certain that you will get sustenance.

The vastness of the sky is very deep. We must take sustenance or food to save our lives.

    Our purpose will be to work, not to give us sustenance - Almighty will give it to us.

It is better not to worry about sustenance - because birds do not have any resources or anyone prepares a source, they also get food, they just tries - whoever is created in the way they are, they will try in that way - the Almighty will provide sustenance.

    We find courage and self-confidence in seeing birds - because birds start their journey at dawn but do not know where their food is today or where they will find it - but in the evening they return home with a full stomach.

They don't even know where the food was.

    We too must keep in mind the activities of the previous movements of those birds.

We must keep trying - we must trust in Almighty - there is no doubt that Almighty will provide sustenance for everyone.

    https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/05/you-have-to-pull-yourself-together-no.html

Read More

You have to pull yourself together - no one will come to you for support...

    You have to pull yourself together - no one will come to you for support - even if someone does come, they will either break you - or make you weak:

There is no weakness in being dependent on others. You have to trust yourself, do your own work - even after a hundred hardships or obstacles.

    No one will come forward in your or my trouble - even if they come, they will take advantage and destroy your confidence.

When you yourself face problems, you cannot be disappointed or broken - you have to build up extraordinary strength within your mind - you have to control yourself with the power of insides without waiting for anyone - you have to be prepared and move forward in life.

    Our lives are full of problems - no one will come to solve us, no one will come to solve us - it is foolish to hope.

Maybe you're waiting for someone to help, but it won't happen - no one will come, even if they come in the name of help and may cause more damage.

    It may seem like someone is being helpful - their intentions here may not be good.

Many times they can use you for their own interests - that's why self-reliance is a big promise - because reality is very difficult. It is foolish to seek help or it is foolish to wait.

    You should always give importance to your own performance.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/04/the-life-of-empty-person-is-like.html

Read More

The life of an empty person is like football - everyone kicks whenever they get the chance:-

 

The life of an empty person is like football - everyone kicks whenever they get the chance:-

    To survive in society, money is necessary - everyone in society has some purpose or goal. There are very few people without goals - but the thing is, not everyone can reach the goal - that's when life becomes meaningless or empty.

And society is not prepared for such people, so everyone is affected or hurt by this.

    This society is not about giving and taking, it's only about taking, which is why society prefers those who can give to society - whether it's society or family.

Football is used here in a literal sense, as in, a football is made just for kicking - one that only hurts and makes someone win.

    So people without money are like this football - they only get hurt.

Therefore, such people are always victims of discrimination in society.

    If society wanted to or if the family wanted to, they could have behaved or used the opposite way - it would not have effect the family or society - but it doesn't happen or don’t do.

People without money are immersed in despair about their lives and families. On top of this, the impact of society and family on them reveals their helplessness, and when they cannot protect themselves, they are constantly oppressed by others.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/04/society-will-always-criticize-you-but.html

Read More

Society will always criticize you, but will never beside with you:-

 

Society will always criticize you, but will never beside with you:-

    This society does not give us any concessions. We are hopeful and expect help, cooperation, support, etc. from the beginning of our birth to the end.

Society may or may not praise you if you do something good - it depends on your position.

    But when there is a wrong or an unintentional mistake, criticism begins - from which no one is spared and which can even be felt in a room - and does not give anyone any chance to correct it.

As social beings, we often push ourselves too far or feel too much pressure while trying to fulfill the needs and desires of society - not so much for ourselves, but for society.

    And when people fail to meet social needs and expectations, society is solely responsible for the loneliness, isolation, and self-isolation that needs, seeking opportunities.

We can't really change it - so we have no alternate to away.

    Loneliness is actually not pleasant - but it is reality.

At some point, people start criticizing themselves and eventually belittling their own hard work. Society could have reform by and rebuilt them, but that doesn't happen anymore or doesn't do.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/04/the-incompetent-speak-down-to-people.html

Read More

The incompetent speak down to people - the competent speak with logic

 

The incompetent speak down to people - the competent speak with logic:

    Choosing the right people in the right places in life is a great art. In our society, many times the incompetent get responsibilities, respect or leadership - this is where the trouble of happens.

This not only harms work - it has a negative impact on everything in society.

    We are all human, but the difference between realize is in our thoughts, words, and wisdom.

In this society, everyone has to live together - it cannot be thought of as the opposite. The problem arises when people look at or speak in a way that belittles or insults them, who they are and who am I.

    Above all, where incompetent people exist, you must be prepared for your respect and personality to be lowered in many areas or for you to feel humiliated.

In our society, there will be obstacles, rights, wants, and needs, and we are dependent on each other for many things, and everyone needs everyone in society.

    As a result, you will not get or give satisfactory results in all matters in this continuous life.

You will be considered small or unworthy by the incompetent - and those who are worthy will give you solutions with logic, intelligence and prudence - which you desire.

    Therefore, you cannot change the character of an incompetent person by any of their actions - it is better to away them.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/04/there-are-many-colors-and-people-have.html

Read More

There are many colors, and people have many variations:

 

There are many colors, and people have many variations:

    Our human life is full of variations. We see that even though we are born into the same family - no one is similar to the other - this is the difference.

We change the color of our minds by understanding the time and place. We are created on the basis of a word in the world, such as human beings. Even though we are human, each person has a different perspective, and almost no one is similar to the other.

    In our practical life, we do not use the word color in a single sense, but rather with its connotations, such as black and green.

In continuation of this, it is said that there are many colors of color. In the fable, it is called color, but to understand which color is which in the correct sense, its exact color must be known.

    So, in a title, we are all human. But to recognize them, many more adjectives have to be given, such as black, tall, white, or this character, or that character, otherwise we will not be able to recognize their true nature.

The only difference is that the internal diversity is not easily perceived. Because different people have different differences, here it can be said more deeply that a person has many differences; this is a matter of more concern.

    It becomes difficult to become a complete family. Because of this diversity, it is very difficult to get to know people.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/03/compassion-is-strange-thing.html

Read More

Compassion is a strange thing....

Compassion is a strange thing. 

    It is an ideal part of this world. Compassion exists in everyone, some awaken it – others keep it dormant.

Those who rise are, however, soft-hearted people. They value Compassion the most. On the contrary, the scale of suffering is also high. But the point is that there must be compassion, it is a feeling or feeling in our life that we want to have.

    Compassion is often uncontrollable or out of control - it often moves at its own path.

You have to express your Compassion depending on the position of time and place, compassion is not desirable in all cases, compassion will remain in life, and it is the need of life. Compassion should not be avoided, but should be applied in the right place.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/03/finally-even-if-no-one-is-beside-mother.html

Read More

Finally, even if no one is beside, "Mother" will always be there: -

Finally, even if no one is beside, "Mother" will always be there: -

    The word "Mother" is not just a call - it is a feeling, a sure breath of fresh air.

We lose many things in our lives, we gain many things, but the love of a mother is the best of all.

    There is only one place where we can express all the desires of our life, and that is "mother".

Everything good in our lives comes from our mothers. When we sail the ship of life, we meet many people - we talk - we work together - at the end of the day, everyone exists in a give and take. But only "mother" only gives, mother does not take.

    When we are sad, we looking forwards for many things to find peace or to feel better, but a little talk or a caress from a mother is the ultimate peace.

A mother is someone who keeps thousands of sorrows and pains inside and thinks only about you and me.

    We love to see the moon and take in its beauty - the moon soothes us with its light - but the truth is that there is no moon that can compare to Mother.

Mother is the best doctor without any degree - there are no words to express the joy and salvation that comes from a little prayer or word. "Mother" means a beautiful explanation, whether it is mine or yours.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/03/patience-is-vehicle-that-never-falters.html

Read More

Patience is a vehicle that never falters:

Patience is a vehicle that never falters:

    Patience or waiting, whoever has the patience to wait will one day have his demand fulfilled.

All the good things in our lives come very slowly. So it can be said that patience and hard work, like magic, make obstacles and dangers disappear.

    Our universal truth is that the results of patience are sweet. He who can be patient - he can achieve what he wants.

Patience is an invisible power - and without patience or less, even small problems become as big as mountains.

    There will always be problems, we live in a world full of problems or have a long history of problems.

Problems cannot be overcome or are not possible - and this patience is the secret strength that does not allow you to be defeated prematurely.

    Patience is completely under your control. The one who can control it is successful. The one who has a lot of patience does not get into trouble even if his intelligence is somewhat lacking.

Patience is a silent weapon that is deeper than words and more effective than actions.

    Patience enhances your personality - brings success - brings peace to society - so patience is a vehicle that never falters.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/03/those-who-pursue-selfish-never-improve.html

Read More

When circumstances dance, acquaintances play the drums:

When circumstances dance, acquaintances play the drums:

We are strange people - we cry when we see drama and laugh when we see reality.

They will envy your success and applaud your sorrow - this has become a culture created by the current civilization.

There are always ups and downs in our lives and this is a universal truth. You cannot change it even if you want to.

This society and life will all go on according to its own rules, the monsoon will come and I will not be able to enjoy the sunshine. This time may not be for me. We must remember that this is not the last monsoon or the last sunshine - the next one may be suitable for me and you.

It may be a bad time for you and me, but it doesn't mean that better times won't come.

The situation may not be in my favor right now - that's why people around me make fun of me. This situation is not my creat or my fault.

So I accepted what was normal, but only those I knew didn't understand - at that time they made fun of me and hated me.

When circumstances are against me and acquaintances are no longer in my favor - this is the reality.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/02/those-who-pursue-selfish-never-improve.html

Read More

Those who pursue selfish never improve - they only change their shell according to their needs:

 

Those who pursue selfish never improve - they only change their shell according to their needs:

    Humans are very mysterious - but the most dangerous thing is selfishness.

We prefer a simple life, where there should be altruism-sympathy-relinquishment, etc. These are the symbols of social peace.

    There are many people in this society who only think about themselves or take advantage of opportunities.

Happiness and problems coexist in our lives - one cannot be expected without the other. This is the secret of the world.

    Our traditional rule is – to do good and to receive good.

Some people are very selfish. Even if you make place in your heart, they will carefully break your heart – just because of their own interests.

    If the person you teach to smile, even in the face of adversity, take away your smile - that is the greatest selfishness.

A selfish person does not change anything about himself, he only changes his shell according to the environment - he forgets the benefits of others.

    Maybe the person we consider our own, but doesn't need us, I've never realized or even noticed this, but whenever they are cut off from me, I suffer a great loss - that's selfishness.

Selfish people never improve - they only change their appearance.

https://www.bdsmartmafamily.com/2026/02/it-is-better-to-away-yourself-from.html

Read More